The path of self-discovery is such an interesting one, but so personal. Even as I write, I ask myself, "Who am I to tell you?" But then I feel bound to tell you what few have told me. So, let’s have a nice talk about what true self-discovery involves.

How honest are you with yourself?

Some people are major liars to others and themselves. It seemed like they are in a constant state of denial. Much of that can be because of the religious traditions or fear of punishment. It encourages a mask of sorts. The question for you, how honest are you to yourself?

Here is a short quiz.

1. Do you find yourself making pledges, vows, commitments, etc. and not following through?

2. Do people describe you as a person of integrity? If you give your word to do something can people count on you?

3. Do you tell your children to lie to a debt collector or friends you do not want to talk to?

Think seriously about your answers, because part of your healing is in the answers. If you constantly say you are going to do something, and then fail to follow through, you have inwardly said you cannot be trusted. Sometimes the intent may be good, but we all know our mouths can take us further than we want to go with some things.

Your assignment is to write down every instance that you can think of where you gave your word and neglected to keep it. Next, forgive yourself for each situation, especially if you do not think you deserve it. If you need to mend an offense with someone else then do it. The reason you need to do this assignment is because you need to get back to the place where you can trust you. Without realizing it you have worked against yourself. Besides, honesty is the foundation for healing. How can you be honest with someone else when you can't be honest with yourself? The main benefit you can receive is a richer spiritual life because you do not have anything to hide.