You’ve found love again with an added bonus – more children added to the mix. Being a step-parent can be a wonderfully fulfilling role, but also has its ups and downs. Blending families can be a trying time, but you can get through it and build a loving relationship with your step-children.
Just when you think love isn’t for you, a wonderful person steps into your life and changes your mind. The relationship is great, and marriage is in the forecast. But, how do you grow a relationship with another person’s child who, after marriage, is considered one of your own?
Negative Factors in Step-Parenting.
Taking on the task of helping raise a child who is not biologically yours can be a great experience, but can also be overwhelming. You are coming into a situation where a child sees you as an outsider, and may not be too happy with it. Until you came along, that child probably had fantasies of his/her parents reuniting, but you changed everything.
You are also considered a double-threat – not only are you the reason why his parents won’t get back together, but you are taking up a lot of time of one of the child’s parents. The jealousy factor can be a quick deterrent for the child to get to know you.
The bad news isn’t over yet – you have one ex-spouse who, more times than not, has a bitter taste in his/her mouth over the marriage and the role you will play in their child’s life.
Add all of these issues up, multiply that by the age of the child, and more than likely, you have a lot of work ahead of you. Don’t worry, you can do this. You owe it to yourself and to your spouse.