In order to achieve a family cohesiveness, you have to work hard at it – yes that means it is the parent/guardian’s responsibility to create a “bonding friendly” atmosphere.

Start with rich soil

You wouldn’t place seeds into red clay and expect it to grow, right? So, why would you ignore your family atmosphere and still expect relationships to flourish? In order for a family to grow and prosper, you have to provide a stimulating environment.

Your family environment should include:

• A setting in which open lines of communication are established and encouraged

• At least a few hours a week of “the whole family” time in order to learn about each other and team build

• Verbal and non-verbal love affirmation (saying I love you, kissing their cheeks, hugs, etc.)

• Clear rules established, maintained and followed through – everyone should be aware of what the house rules are that are consistently enforced

• Positive reinforcement – parents should generously reward those children and each other when positive behaviors are displayed – this helps children learn what acceptable behavior is and how to demonstrate it