Online dating services have been around for at least ten years and by now, nearly everyone who has ever been single has tried online dating at least once. Some singles have actually met with success, fallen in love with the man or woman of their dreams and lived happily ever after (as far as we know). Others have become frustrated or disillusioned and given up or simply moved on to finding other ways of meeting potential partners.

Online dating isn’t much different than any other kind of dating really. You meet someone, are attracted to him or her, and start a relationship—or not. The primary difference with an online dating service is in the way you meet other singles and communicate initially. In the case of most online dating services, you look at pictures of potential mates, you email them, you talk, you meet, and you decide to move forward or start over and try again. In some respects, finding and cultivating a relationship is like a full time job.

Online dating can be a great way to meet other singles wanting the same kind of relationship you do, whether it’s romance, friendship, or a fling. As with any other kind of dating relationship, there are usually pitfalls to avoid along the way. Here’s how to successfully navigate your way through the beginning stages of online dating and eliminate partners who may not be right for you.

Avoid Lengthy Email Exchanges

Don’t waste time emailing potential dates for weeks on end. The more quickly you meet in person, the more quickly you can eliminate that “prospect” or begin to develop a relationship. If, after a few email exchanges, you think you might like the other person get his or her phone number and speak on the phone. This will reveal a lot about the other person. Based on your conversation you can decide whether to meet in person and find out if there is a mutual attraction.