Tom Cruise recently went on Oprah, jumping up and down, declaring his love for Katie Holmes for all the world to hear. I’m sure that some women watching that thought, "Wow. Where can I find a man like that?"

In spite of the millions and movie star status, what those women were really focusing on was the fact that Tom Cruise was willing to make love the most important thing in his life, eager to share it with anyone who would listen.

Such attention from a loved one is craved, dreamed about by many women. If they are already in a relationship, this could be a surefire signal that they are not getting the love that they need and it’s time to look for someone new. If the woman is not in a relationship, it’s time for them to find that love they deserve!

The Three Week Marker

When we first start dating someone, the first three weeks are key. That’s the exciting time – the hunt (will he/she like me), the conquest (he/she does like me!), and the exploration of your new friend (what does he/she think about everything that’s ever happened to them).

Often, in the first three weeks, it will be the woman that’s slightly hesitant. She may be just out of a relationship that didn’t work and guarding her heart a bit more carefully. It’s usually the man who will be initiating the time they spend together.

With the right amount of calling and attention, the man might be able to break through the women’s initial resistance to love. Unfortunately, it’s often at the three week point that the man will suddenly come to his senses and realize that he’s begun a relationship which, when he thinks about it intellectually, he doesn’t really want. Why would he want to give up his freedom?