Definition of Feng Shui

Taken literally, Feng Shui means ‘wind and water.’ Also known as the art of placement, the Chinese have been a proponent of the practice for centuries. They have long observed that it is possible to deliberately arrange your belongings in your immediate surroundings in order to gain positive results. The goal is to achieve greater happiness, success and harmony in one’s life. Feng Shui is about the natural energies of cause and effect and the belief that everything is connected. Those who take the time to learn about Feng Shui and incorporate it into their lives are able to live a more peaceful and balanced life than those who do not.

Is it possible to apply the principles of Feng Shui to the complicated world of relationships? Yes and no.

At its root Feng Shui can be applied to the spaces you occupy but not to yourself or other people in general. On the “no” side there is no one element of Feng Shui that will automatically improve your relationships. On the “yes” side, Feng Shui is all about balancing one’s environment so that benefits can be reaped from it. The result of all of this is that your relationships might flow better. By balancing your space and making it “Feng Shui friendly” you will absorb the improved energy from the changes in your environment and therefore notice a positive difference in your relationships.

So what is the single person to do? Think relationship corner.

All homes have a relationship corner. Walk in the front door to the rear of your home, then take a right. You’re now standing in your relationship corner. And another important relationship area is your bedroom, no matter where it is situated in your home. Look to your bedroom to help you attract the greater love energy you are seeking.

Specific relationship items

Specific items can spice things up in your love life considerably. If you are already in a relationship, Feng Shui can help make it even better. And if you’re not in a relationship, Feng Shui could help you find the love you are searching for.

If you don’t have these items in your relationship corner now you might want to add them very soon.

Pink Stuff

In Feng Shui pink symbolizes love. Pink stuff can help hold love energy for you. Think pink when decorating your bedroom. Anything pink is good whether it be big or small. If pink is not your color, try red instead. Red is also associated with love. Go wild!

Space

The energy of love must have room so creating space is the first thing you must do. Clean out the medicine cabinet, a drawer or two, part of the closet, a shelf in the bookcase. Put whatever you want in your nightstand but leave the other one on the other side of the bed empty. Or as an added touch, leave something there that you think your lover (or future lover) would be pleased with.

Matching Pairs

Do away with your single things and replace them with matching pairs of items, such as a set of lovebirds, a set of figurines (mandarin ducks are a good bet but whatever appeals to you is fine, just make sure it’s two), a couple of candlesticks, two hearts, matching vases, etc. The point is that you have pairs, not singles.

Round Mirrors (and/or rounded items)

Mirrors reflect good energy and that’s important. Round mirrors are the best choice. Round shaped items are a good bet for your purposes. Curvy stuff mimics the human form and that makes it appropriate (and helpful) to have in the relationship area of your home.

Candles

They create heat; they are eye catching; they’re romantic and some come in very pleasant scents. Not to mention the fact that most people are very sexy looking by candlelight. To make it even steamier, try two pink or two red candles sitting side by side, one for each of you. Just wait for the sparks to fly!

Symbols of Sensuality

What is sensual? That’s easy. Massage oils, chocolate, candles, champagne, soft music, perfume dabbed in all the right places, nice sheets (especially silk), lingerie, and a robe that feels good against your skin. These items can help bolster your confidence that you can handle the energy (and the opportunities) once they come your way. The five senses are the root of true sensuality. Make sure you have indulged all of yours.

Flowers (especially peonies)

Roses and other flowers would be very fitting in the relationship area, in particular peonies. To the Chinese peonies have always symbolized fidelity and marriage. Arrangements of this pretty flower are ideal for displaying in your bedroom or in the hall outside your room to ensure you will find a good partner. If you are in a committed relationship already, peonies can still be beneficial, but take care and place them in your living room, not your bedroom.

Your Own Personal Symbols of Love and Romantic Possibility

What signifies love and romance in your mind? Whatever it is it should find a home in your relationship corner. Flowers, cupids, romantic photos of the two of you (or other couples such as close friends), even romantic pictures cut out of magazines (why not?), your favorite love stories, movies, music, a heart shaped candy dish, a heart pillow (or anything with hearts!), chocolate, pictures of a beach in Hawaii, a sunset, etc. Whatever suits your fancy. This area is all about love!

The Flip Side

There is a flip side to all of this however. There are things that should not be in your relationship corner as they discourage the possibilities of finding love. If you have any of these things, remove them before they chase love away.

Single Stuff

Do you have art in your home that depicts a single woman or man? How about portraits of yourself (and only you) adorning your walls? If so, take them down. Single attitudes and energies are attracted by images of single women. This is not what you want.

Items from Old Relationships

Do you still have reminders of past loves lying around? How can you move forward if you aren’t willing to let go of what once was? Cut the ties and make a healthy start by getting rid of old love letters, cards, photos, trinkets, small gifts, dried flowers, furniture and anything else that was a part of your life “before”.

Single Setup

Having just one nightstand next to your bed with every other space in your bedroom bursting with your stuff gives a prospective mate the impression that you are comfortable with your single lifestyle and in no hurry to change the status quo. This is by no means the message you are looking to communicate. Change your tune.

Pointy and Pokey Objects

Sharp angles, pointy objects and corners poking into this area of your home are bad news. It only serves to keep people you are interested in and attracted to at bay. Lose harsh, unyielding items from your bedroom and anything that encourages distance. For example, a bedroom is no place for a cactus. Think soft and inviting for your bedroom décor.

Too Much Feminine Chi

Sure you’re feminine and like to surround yourself with symbols of your femininity, but don’t overwhelm that special someone. If your home and/or bedroom is so filled with lace, perfume bottles and floral everything that a man cannot even walk through your door and sit down without shivering and feeling out of place, consider lightening up on the girly girl things. You don’t have to become a macho man but give some thought to a man’s point of view when decorating your space.

Juvenile Chi

Sure you still like your stuffed animals, games and dolls but they are juvenile and therefore don’t attract adult relationships. If you want a mature relationship then you have to think like a grown up. Pack your childhood away and move forward with your life.

Distractions

Certain items in a bedroom are distractions that you are better off without if you are intent on a relationship. Keep exercise equipment, work related paraphernalia, laundry, and a television set out of your love area. Keep these things somewhere else so they won’t serve to deter you from your romantic pursuits.

Symbols of Cold

If it has anything to do with cold, keep it out of your bedroom. Cold related anything is definitely bad news for love seekers. You want to encourage heat not cold temperatures in a relationship so get rid of any pictures of winter, snow, polar bears and anything else that’s of a cold origin. Painting a bedroom blue, having blue curtains, a blue comforter or bedspread, a blue lamp shade, etc. is also not advisable as blue is a cold color. Use blue as a color scheme somewhere else in your home.

Try making use of these simple ideas to help add some spice to an existing relationship or to encourage a new one. But before you begin implementing the practices of Feng Shui in your life, focus the bulk of your attention on becoming the kind of person someone would want to have a relationship with. Once completed, only then can you actively concentrate on finding a person who is right for you. One must always be right with oneself first. Learn to love yourself and then look for someone who will love “the you” that you love.