If online dating isn’t your thing and you feel brave enough to approach a stranger, these tips could land you the girl of your dreams.
# 1: The local playground
If you like children and are family oriented, the playground is a great place to meet women. You’ll find a variety to choose from. From mothers, to sisters, to nannies, not all women in a playground are spoken for. If they are, they’ll be flattered by the attention and let you down easy.
Strategy: If you are by yourself, bring a book, the paper or your lunch so you don’t look like a pervert. The best thing would be to bring your dog (don’t forget your pooper-scooper) or your kids (bring appropriate gear). If you have neither, you can borrow some. However, don’t borrow a dog or children you are not familiar with or whose company you don’t genuinely enjoy.
Once you’ve spotted a woman you like, don’t go barging over. Try to observe her as unobtrusively as possible. If she catches you staring, smile. If she smiles back, walk on over. If she doesn’t, it could just mean she’s busy watching her kids or mentally preparing dinner. Watch for an opening. If she’s near her kids, take yours near them and strike up a conversation. If conversation seems to flow, you can make your pitch.
# 2: The Home Depot or other such stores
It used to be a place to pick up men but nowadays more women are into home renovation, decorating, and gardening. These stores are also hiring more female staff so you should be able to find suitable female companionship if you like the handy type.
Strategy: If you are an experienced handyman, hang out near the service counter and wait for a woman to ask a question. If the clerk can’t help her, jump in. You could also walk around until you find a woman who looks lost, confused or whose been staring at something for a long time. Don’t offer to help just yet. Go to that section and try to look competent. Compare products, measure things, take notes. If she still doesn’t ask for help, ask for her opinion about something. She’ll be more comfortable asking for your help if she thinks she’s helped you in any way. Once you’ve established a certain rapport, go to the next level.
If you’re not very handy, go to the decorating, gardening, or window treatment section and ask for help. It makes no difference if it’s a clerk or a customer; most women like to give their opinions about such matters and you won’t seem less of a man for not knowing what a café curtain is.
#3:Dance hall or dance lessons
This one should be obvious. Most women enjoy couples dancing and you don’t need to be a couple to take lessons. Sure you may end up dancing with your grandma but that could prove endearing to the right girl. If you have two left feet or don’t enjoy dancing, try to remember that dancing gets you close to a woman in the most primal way and that for the duration of the dance, she’s a captive audience.
Strategy: This one is easy. Sign-up. Show up. Practice. Don’t paw or grope. Once you’ve danced with the same woman and feel comfortable talking (read listening) to her, you may suggest going dancing to practice or to watch professional dancers for tips. Tango would be an excellent choice.
# 4: Self-help seminars
Most women love seminars, especially self-help or spiritual. If you’re not really into it, don’t go. If you think you can stand a couple hours of touchy-feeling subject matter, hop to it. You might actually learn something.
Strategy: Again an easy one. Look for seminars that include group or pair workshops. Choose a subject you enjoy or think you should know more about so you won’t get bored. You need to pay attention so you’ll be able to discuss the topic.
# 5: Volunteer
Women are natural caregivers and they appreciate a man who can give back to the community.
Strategy: Choose an activity you enjoy. Here are some examples:
Coaching a local sports team
After-school programs
School outings or fundraisers
Soup kitchens
Hospitals
Senior homes or activities
Local festivals or events
Alternately, you could offer to teach free workshops that help or empower women. Just don’t restrict access to women or it’ll look fishy.