Keeping your love alive doesn’t require big fancy cars or expensive trips – you can quickly put the spark back into a relationship by showing you care. Taking time out to surprise your true love can only improve the relationship. For only a few cents or a few hours a week, you can keep the passion in your relationship.
Remember the first months of your relationship? The butterflies, long kisses, romantic nights and gazes of enduring love? The great sex? Those moments provide the foundation for how strong our love for our significant other actually is today.
But, why should we lose that feeling? After several years in a relationship, many couples allow the day to day grind of jobs, children, bills and family take precedence over the quivering insides and the yearning for their love’s touch. They often forget about the initial feeling of falling in love and trade it for passion-less status quo.
Don’t fall prey to losing that loving feeling. Anyone can keep the love alive in a relationship – it just takes a little time to plan and a few dollars here and there.
50 Ways to Put the Steam Back in Your Team
During your next trip to the grocery store, check out the greeting card isle. Pick a few cards out for your lover – some sexy, some sweet and some for words of encouragement. When at home, write little messages in each of the cards and periodically leave them in his brief case, on his dashboard or even send it to his place of employment. He will definitely feel like a king in your eyes, and your anticipation of him finding each card will give you butterflies.
Make several small construction paper hearts and then on each heart, write something that you love about your mate – “I love your smile” or “Your touch makes me quiver” – then tape them on the bathroom mirror or all over his car (be sure to avoid the windshield and blind spots). I did this for Valentine’s Day, and my husband still has every heart.
Wake up early and make a nice breakfast, including mimosas, for just the two of you. Sit somewhere else to eat it – maybe outside or in bed. Talk about some of the crazy things you did when you were younger – who knows – he may just be late for work that morning!
Arrange for the kids to stay at a friend’s house and make an exotic meal. Dress the part – pull out that sexy number that wowed him years before, but skip the underclothes. As you are eating, drop hints about what is missing under your dress. See how long you two can finish the meal before he can’t resist finding out for himself.
Pack his bags and load him in the car after planning a weekend getaway. If you want, blindfold him so he has no idea where he is going, then drop hints to see if he will guess. Spend the weekend eating great food, seeing the sights and exploring each other in bed.
Pack his lunch and stick in a note on a napkin or piece of paper telling him that you can’t wait until he comes back home. After lunch, give a follow up call telling him exactly what you want to do to him. Who knows? He may just leave work early that day!
Buy a massage book and some oil. Learn the techniques and give him the massage of his life.
During your morning greeting, kiss him for a full 12 seconds. Show him what he is leaving, and what will be waiting for him when he comes home.
Early risers? Sneak out of bed and let him sleep while you feed the children. When he wakes up, tell him you are glad he got extra rest because he has some things he needs to do (then jump into bed).
Jump in the shower with him and wash him from head to toe.
Ask for his help even when you know you can do it. Make a point to tell him he is your big, strong man, and you are so glad you have him to help you.
Make a compilation CD of “couple songs” – all the songs you love together. Then stick it in his CD player for his ride to work.
Pack a picnic basket, some kites, a Frisbee and football and go to the park with the whole family. Spend the day being playful and free. This not only creates great memories, but gets you back to that youthful feeling of when you first met.
Bubble bath, candles and music. Tempt him to rub sugar scrub all over your body, and then ask him to join you.
Take a picture of your favorite pair of high heels and a pearl or beaded necklace and place it in his brief case. Write a note asking him if he likes the outfit you plan on wearing later tonight. Arrange for the kids to be gone for a few hours and then greet him at the door in your shoes and necklace.
Drive to the local teenager make out spot and make out.
Buy him season tickets for the sporting event he loves. Put on your jersey and go with him.
Only have 15 minutes? Have him go to work in a great mood by throwing a quickie on him. He will smile all day long.
Go to the movies and instead of watching it – sit on the back row and make out like teenagers.
On a night when the kids are away get all dressed up and do a strip tease for your man. Make sure you are loaded down with gloves, necklaces, garters and the sort – he will eagerly anticipate you taking off every piece of clothing.
If he is going on a long business trip, pack some naughty photos of you. He will be pleasantly surprised to find them, and will definitely call to tell you.
Go dancing. Make sure you are on the floor during each slow song, and press up tight against him, kissing his neck.
Write a haiku just for him.
Put on a pair of skimpy shorts and vacuum while he is sitting on the couch. Be sure to bend with the vacuum – and watch his eyes follow your every move.
On a clear night, plan a midnight picnic of grapes, cheese and wine. Look up at the stars like you used to as kids. Tell him how much you love your life and are happy that he is yours.
Get that youthful feeling back - play like kids. Roll down hills, battle it out with water guns or run a race.
Steal away at a party – find the nearest bathroom, closet or room – and grope each other passionately.
Ask him to role play with you. Meet up at a bar pretending not to know each other, and try to get him to go home with you.
Send him naughty (but not dirty) e-mails periodically throughout the day. He’ll definitely be happy to come home.
Make a list of 12 things you both would like to do with the other person. Check them off one by one.
Take candid photos of him. Make him pose in different ways, and take off some clothing. Not only will he feel special, you’ll get some great shots of your man.
Find his event calendar in his planner or PDA, and add in fun activities – like kiss your wife’s body for 15 minutes or stay in bed all day with wife – he’ll get a kick out of it, and will probably follow through.
Find out his favorite fantasy, and act it out.
Explore his body like it was the first time. You’ll find erogenous zones you either forgot or didn’t know existed.
Take an active role in your sex life - tell him what you want in bed. He will do what you say, and love every minute of it.
Play hard to get, but then give in.
Place a temporary tattoo somewhere obscure on your body, and then have him find it.
Brag to your friends about your man while he can hear you.
Host a male party – poker or sports related – and have the other men’s wives come over to help you host. Wear some sexy uniforms and serve your men. The party may end early.
Buy an “I HEART ____” shirt with your man’s name on it. Wear it to bed.
Buy the Kama Sutra. Use it.
Let him watch you take a shower, but don’t let him touch you. As you are taking your time soaping up, he will go absolutely crazy.
Leave a trail of clothes in the house as he walks through the door. Have him find you.
Say “I love you” at least 10 times a day – and mean it.
Start a tickle fight – find his really ticklish spots and get him good.
Buy his lunch at his favorite restaurant and have it delivered with a note from you.
Play strip poker and lose on purpose.
Give him a manicure and pedicure. Afterward, kiss all the parts you made soft.
Take dance lessons together and then tango or salsa at a young hotspot night club.
Every day, point out how much you love him, can’t wait to see him and can’t live without him.