After the home, school is where children
spend the largest part of their day, making it number two on the list of
potential problem areas. The three most
common social issues revolve around isolation, bullies and harassment.
Isolation: “I don’t fit!” “Nobody likes me!” “I’m ugly!” Who hasn’t had these thoughts at some
time? Feelings of isolation are
especially common among youngsters who are shy, immature or perceive themselves
as “different” from their classmates. A child may be self-conscious about her
height, weight, hair or an accent. A
child’s self-image frequently diminishes as they enter their teens, often
resulting in apathy and a decline in work habits. Girls who mature early or boys who mature
late are particularly prone to these insecurities.
Activities, which help to build
self-esteem, identify personal strengths or involve like-minded peers are
helpful.
Encourage
hobbies or cooperative sports.
Facilitate friendships others who share common interests with your child.
Ask the
teacher for her observations on your child’s interaction with classmates. Children seldom recognize the impact of their
personal habits on peers. They may need
advice on overcoming shyness, on personal grooming, or interpersonal skills.
Bullies: Like it or not, at some point in time we all face bullies. If
you suspect a problem bluntly ask: “Is someone picking on you?” If appraised of the problem, the school
should be able to help.
Teachers
can often make modifications in seating or grouping to either prevent problems
or quietly solve them.
Adverse
publicity and lawsuits have motivated school systems to actively stop bullies.
Harassment:
Both at home and at school, parents need to be attentive to the possibility
that their child is being sexually harassed or even abused. If a child’s homework problem represents a
dramatic change in behavior, or if it is persistent, do not overlook this
unfortunate possibility. Since this may
be a difficult topic, your child may be more comfortable speaking to a
professional such as a guidance counselor, social worker, or clergy.