Now that you and your partner understand a little more about where you’ve each come from, one of the most important questions to address before the big day is: how do I, as an individual, and we, as a couple, resolve conflict? Do you like to sit down and hammer out a solution right away, while your better half needs time and space to mull things over? Are you more likely to confront or withdraw during a conflict? When arguing, does every thought that enters your head come directly out of your mouth or do you choose your words deliberately? Do you give the silent treatment or like to scream and slam doors? Recognizing and addressing the harmful ways you deal with conflict before you seal the deal is crucial. Ask your fiancée if you have habits when it comes to conflict that drive him or her crazy, and then listen. Be willing to honestly consider what your partner has to say about you before you respond. This exercise works both ways so let your partner know what bothers you about his or her fighting style. Work out compromises regarding the way you disagree while you’re both calm and willing to talk, and you may save yourself from hurt feelings and permanent wounds when you’re in the heat of battle. Disagreements are inevitable in marriage, but learning how to fight fair can mean the difference between marital mayhem and wedded bliss.