Number two – men want women who know how to compromise.
Friday night is chick flicks and chocolates, but what does your man get in return? More chick flicks and chocolates? Come on, ladies.
If your man is willing to do things that you are interested in – flea market shopping, decorating the house, picking flowers or even watching The Thorn Birds – don’t you think it’s not only nice, but necessary to participate in his favorite extracurricular activities?
Give in to your dreaded anti-sports routine and say cheers with your beer and watch the game with him. Play football in the yard, and put on a great show. You may just learn that golf isn’t boring – and you are good at it too. It doesn’t hurt to give in once in a while.
While examining this want, you may realize that when it comes to compromise, you aren’t an A+ student. Many men tend to give in to our wants – not only to make us happy, but to feel closer – and then they become resentful when we refuse to reciprocate. Don’t let the resentment build and find that years later you are taking separate vacations – fill both of your lives with things each other enjoys to do.
Number three – men want an intellectual equal.
Yes, they enjoy the “big, strong man” routine too; but bottom line, smart is sexy. Men want to be able to have stimulating conversations with the woman they love – not just meaningless talk that gets you through the day.
Taking time to talk over a bottle of wine when the kids are asleep – about politics, current events, philosophy, you name it – makes your relationship stronger, encourages your husband to be your fan forever.
When you remove the relationship piece of the puzzle, you can see that you learn so much about the world, other people and yourself when you have a meaningful conversation. The act of conversing drives us to learn more, form our beliefs and sometimes, change our minds. Without it, we aren’t saying much, are we?
Having these chats with your love not only keeps your opinions of each other high, but it adds a challenge to the relationship. He will want to think about what you are saying and add to it – which means he can’t be dumb either. It brings you back to being young and in love – and interested in what each other has to say.