It is important to remain in tune with what is going on between the sitter and the senior. Most people are on best behavior at the beginning of any kind of relationship and this is no exception. Learn to recognize the signs of compatibility, as well as the warning signs that the situation may not work out.
Signs of Compatibility
Encouraging family and friends to visit.
Putting the elderly person at ease when she/he asks for help, especially in the restroom or at bath time.
Encouraging the elderly person to remain as active as possible, i.e. taking him/her to senior citizens luncheons, going for walks in the park, etc.
Being discreet regarding the illness or infirmities, as well as business matters the sitter may be privy to.
Letting the elderly person answer his/her own telephone.
Allowing the elderly person to speak for himself.
Speaking directly to the senior, not over and around him/her.
Planning meals around the likes and dislikes of the senior and not the sitter’s preferences.
Warning Signs:
Talking with visitors while the elderly person is waiting for attendance in the restroom.
Not dependable, (calling at the last minute and can't make it; repeatedly late, etc.)
Discussing the senior (or family members) with others.
Discussing the senior in his/her presence, as if he/she doesn’t understand what is being said.
Making personal calls that are charged to the elderly person’s telephone bill.
Ignoring special needs, such as bringing candy for snacks, knowing the senior is having trouble keeping his/her weight down, or is diabetic.
Your parent continually complains about the sitter, although you don’t notice anything going on when you are present.
Unexplained bruises begin to show up on your parent.
Your senior parent begins to lose weight, indicating he/she isn’t eating enough.
Your senior parent becomes quiet and withdrawn.
The sitter’s boyfriend comes to pick her up at the end of her shift and comes inside. Especially take note if he goes to the bedroom to help her carry out her belongings.
The sitter’s family members (children, grandchildren, etc.) feel free to stop by.