Don’t expect perfection. This is so true, especially concerning Baby Boomers. As a person gets older gravity takes over and things start to sag, and it is easier than ever to add weight. While it is true that a certain amount of plastic surgery can do wonders, the process of getting older is unrelenting. You’re probably on some sort of medication (high cholesterol, blood pressure, diabetes, etc.). And although you won’t admit it, you aren’t as athletic as you used to be. Also, your author has yet to find anyone in this age bracket who likes to see themselves nude in the mirror. So, accept these imperfections in yourself and in others. Actually at this age people tend to look for something physically interesting in the other person and it becomes attractive. People also look for someone they can talk to. The young girls in Playboy Magazine who are airbrushed to a “t” no longer hold the appeal they once did.
Don’t Rob The Cradle
Having said the foregoing, some people seem to want to rob the cradle and date partners who are decades younger. One reason is that it makes them feel young. But what does the other person really see in you? Could it be money perhaps? Unless you’re going to Vegas and you want a young plaything on your arm this dating scheme really has no future. And what are you going to share besides sex? Music, art, philosophic discussions? I doubt it. The younger crowd has never heard of Andy Williams and Brenda Lee and they don’t even read the newspaper. So don’t embarrass yourself. Keep your date within 10 to 15 years of your own age and things will have a much better chance of working out.
The First Date
The safest first date is to meet for either coffee, lunch or dinner. It is easier to have conversation over a good meal and it is a non-threatening environment. To take someone you haven’t even met to a movie or a concert perhaps is risky. And you’ll find out a good deal more about them in a couple of hours at a restaurant than anywhere else. Speaking of conversation, stay away from talking too much about yourself, and whatever you do, don’t unload problems. The other person doesn’t want to hear them. It is still OK and acceptable if the man pays for the night out. You can reciprocate later on with a home-cooked meal or something. Oh, and stay away from the bar scene on a first date. More about that later.