This is a confusing time for the woman. Often you’ll here a woman in this position say, "I didn’t even like him that much to begin with. But he kept calling and... well, he grew on me. How can I make him love me?"
Women, if you hear these words come out of your mouth, STOP. Listen to what you’re saying.
1. You were barely attracted to him to begin with.
2. He grew on you because he gave you a lot of attention.
3. How can you make him love you?
Let’s start with point #3. The fact is this – you can never, I repeat, never force someone to love you, so don’t even try. Even if it works for awhile, it will not last and the first woman that comes along that brings up real feelings in your man will take him away from you. Much more painful than just letting him go in the beginning.
That brings us to the solution – at the three week point, be prepared to ask your man if you are exclusive. Do this at his house - there is a reason for this.
If he’s ready for a relationship, he will answer favorably and you’ve made it past the three week point with (unnatural) flying colors. Okay, it’s possible. Some people meet at the right place and right time. But if he gives the typical response, which is he’s not really ready for a relationship, here’s what you do...
What to Say When He Says He Doesn't Want a Relationship
You say, "Alright, I understand. It’s been wonderful getting to know you these past three weeks, month, etc. But I won’t be able to see you anymore. I’m looking for a relationship and we’re not a match."
Say this without tears, drama, or (if you’re really good) inflection. Then leave.
The man will not know what hit him.
A Typical Reaction
The thing is, most men are used to women not believing them. The man very clearly states his position, the woman chooses to ignore it, thinking she can change him. She stays, feels used, and the man is guilt-free because, as he figures, he stated his position clearly.