Potential friends are everywhere! Here’s how to find them...
Make a list of all the things that are unique about you – you own a rare breed of dog, you have an obsession with Gucci, you like to play Scrabble. This will be a guide as to clubs or activities you should take part in to meet new people.
Start going out to the bookstore, movies, or the theatre alone. Just like getting a date, you’re much more approachable on your own.
Volunteer to be a greeter at a department store, museum, or any social activity. As the job description implies, you have to say hello to everyone who walks in. What better way to start talking to strangers?
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How to Make New Friends
Just like asking someone out on a date, striking up a friendship can be awkward. Here are some fool-proof tips to making friends with the people you want.
Make the first move. If you meet someone you’re interested in getting to know better, approach them with a warm smile, extend your hand, and introduce yourself.
Ask questions and be interested in the other person. If you were drawn to them because of their impeccable choice of dress, compliment it. If you see someone looking at an interesting book, ask them about it! People love to talk in terms of what excites them.
Get their number. Say, "It was fun chatting with you. I can’t wait to tell my wife, husband, boyfriend, etc. I met an interesting person. Can I get your card?" That way, you’ve opened the door for future communication while establishing that you’re not interested in them for the wrong reasons.
You will get rejected and often, it will have little or nothing to do with you. Everyone’s had a day where they’re overwhelmed by life and too busy juggling friendships of their own. But if you persist, eventually you will find someone looking for what you are – that fun connection.