During the first few months of a relationship, you can hardly think of anyone else but your new mate. You constantly reminisce about recent encounters and fantasize about upcoming trysts. You’re still exploring each other’s bodies and learning about what the other likes and dislikes, so sex is still fresh and exciting. And then time passes. Before you know it, you’ve been together for years – and what was once the thrilling highlight of your day is now the yawn-inducing, missionary-position, twice-weekly scheduled sex (Tuesday and Friday evenings, because that’s when you can spare an extra fifteen minutes). Boredom can be a real boudoir-buster.
Luckily, if both partners are willing participants, this problem is among the easiest to fix. There are a myriad of toys, costumes, props, and other adults-only delights available for your pleasure. If you don’t feel comfortable making a jaunt to an adult novelty store, you can shop in the privacy of your own home via one of the many tasteful adult sites on the Internet. When you order from these sites, your purchase is shipped to you in plain packaging to ensure that your business remains your business.
If your partner is a little hesitant or shy, try easing into a new sexual routine: begin with a sensual massage, complete with warmed body oil. (Hardly anyone can refuse that!) Usually this type of activity will open the door to other, more risqué activities.
One of the fastest ways to become bored is to subsist on a steady diet of quick, efficient sex. You know the type: you go straight for the hot spots and do the minimum just to get the job done in the least amount of time. It becomes such a routine that you can map out exactly what your partner is going to do before they even enter the bedroom – it never changes. That is the drawback to being very familiar with someone else’s body; no need to explore, even though exploration is a crucial ingredient for a passionate encounter. No matter how long you’ve been with your partner, there is surely one area, no matter how tiny, that you may have overlooked sexually: the small of the back, the arch of the foot, or the inside of the wrist, just to name a few. Take more time to explore, and both you and your partner may be surprised at the unexpected erogenous zones you stumble across.