This goes hand-in-hand with the part about submitting a photo of what you really look like. It is important to be one hundred percent truthful when it comes to putting yourself out there. After all, if you aren’t truthful, you’re only cheating yourself out of finding the highest level compatibility possible. Even things you perceive as flaws might be seen as endearing qualities to someone else. If your favorite food is pizza with Skittles and anchovies, and you lie and say it’s foie gras (for those who aren’t up on their ethnic cuisines, that’s duck liver paté), you’re going to get taken to a French restaurant instead of that pizza joint you’ve been dying to try. But if you ‘fess up to your weird cravings, you might just find a honey whose palate is as freaky as yours.
Keep On the Sunny Side
"Hi. My name is Sadie, and I’m a thirty-one-year-old divorcee who spends her spare time listening to Mazzy Star, avoiding the hideous singles scene, and plotting devious ways to get revenge on my jerk of an ex-husband.” That might be the truth, and I did just say that honesty is the best policy, but Sadistic Sadie’s personal ad makes her sound about as warm and inviting as a porcupine. You don’t have to lie; if your usual demeanor is on par with Oscar the Grouch, don’t write about how much you love puppies and kittens and rainbows and wish upon stars for world peace. But unless your intention is to attract a perpetually gloomy Goth type, you should try to be positive and upbeat in your ad. Instead of infusing your words with negativity, project a forward-looking attitude. Don’t say you’re skeptical of the Internet dating scene; say you can’t wait to experience it for yourself to see if all the stories you’ve heard are true. Remember what your mama told you: if you can’t say anything nice …