1.
Constant references to an ex-spouse or partner or a female friend that seems a
little too special might mean that there is something else going on and he or
she may not be emotionally available—at least not right now.
2.
Men and women who are newly separated after a long marriage or relationship
should be treated with caution. The same goes for anyone embroiled in a nasty
divorce or custody battle. That is not to say they wouldn’t be a good partner
for you in the future or are not serious about a new relationship, but how long
do you want to wait while the other person sorts out her life?
3.
Beware of men (or women) who only give out their cell phone number. True, these
days many people do only have a cell phone and not a landline phone, but they
probably do have a job and a work number. Always get a home number, or at the
very least a work number, by the second or third date--if it gets that far of
course.
4.
If either party mentions the word s-e-x in any form--noun, verb, adverb, or
adjective--during your first conversation (either on the phone or in person) he
or she is only looking for a fling. If this is what you want you’ve met your
match, if not, be flattered that he or she thinks you’re a hot commodity, but
don’t waste your time.
5.
Displaying age inappropriate behaviors are another red flag. Staying out all
night clubbing or hanging out with 20-something year olds when you are in your
40s indicates a degree of immaturity.
6.
Someone who calls frequently (several times a day) or wants to see you several
times a week at the start of a relationship is probably bad news. Either they
are so eager for a relationship that they don’t care who they are dating or
they are needy and insecure.
7.
Beware of the serial dater. One of the problems with online dating is the
opportunity to have hundreds of men and women to choose from. Many men and
women get caught up in the “there’s always something better around the corner”
mentality.