Don’t be afraid to initiate contact, and don’t worry if you get a few nice “no thank you’s.” There are plenty of fish in the sea. But if you see someone you like then say hello, you have nothing to lose. One of the best ways to do this is through the site free contact options, sometimes called “winks,” or, “flirts.” They are usually available free but have limited functions, you can’t post information to that person like your email but they usually have a text component that the website attaches to them. Things like, “I like your profile,” or some such thing. This lets you initiate contact and see how they might respond while still using you “free” membership.
Be safe.
I find the best way to contact people and be safe is to use a free mail server. For this I recommend Yahoo. I suggest you don’t use your ISP provided account. Some unscrupulous people can use that information to find out more about you than you want them to know. It would be foolish to say that everyone out there have the best intentions, remember the water is full of sharks. So when contacting some one it is best to use a free account and to only give them you first name.
But you have emailed and want to go a bit further, that’s good. But remember the Golden Rule, do it safely. This is where Yahoo is great, they have a free messenger, which allows you to talk in real time without giving out any more information than you already have. (Links below). You can text chat in real time, or for under $20 you can buy a headset and voice chat. It is fairly simple so that any novice can figure it out fairly quickly.
Though now you are ready to talk on the phone. I suggest for the women that you ask the man to give you his number first.
Now don’t think that theses precautions will put your intended off. Anyone who is genuinely interested in you will understand your need to be cautious and wont mind at all. Those that don’t want to accept some sort of safety etiquette and understand the need for it would be a little dubious anyway.