Having to see the doctor when you are filled with anxiety about an issue such as bleeding is not something one can prepare for. Just try to stay as calm as you can and get through the questions he or she will need to ask you.
You will need tell your health care provider or emergency room worker when the bleeding started and how heavy it has been. How much blood has there been, and is there any pain occurring? Have you had it before with this pregnancy? How many weeks are you into your pregnancy?
The doctor will also be asking if you have fallen or if there was a blow to your abdominal area. Have you been in a vehicle accident? Were you exercising heavily before the bleeding started? Does the bleeding stop when you lie down to rest?
In addition to the bleeding questions, the physician will want to know if you have had fever or any kind of illness, if there is pain, if you are dizzy or fatigued. Other questions may include if there has been nausea or diarrhea, or changes in bowel or urination habits. The doctor will most likely want to perform a pelvic exam and take a blood sample.
I Know Someone Who Miscarried, What Can I Say?
Don't make assumptions about whether or not someone who has just gone through such an overwhelming loss wants to either hide it or spend time talking about it. If it is not obvious right away, you may want to simply ask her if talking about it is something she would like to do. Some people will be happy for the chance to talk about it while others will want to avoid it while the pain is so fresh and mourn privately. In either case, let her make the decision on whether or not to discuss her loss at that moment and respect her decision.