An important message to make clear to your teenager is: with freedom comes
responsibility. If you can help a teenager understand that his or her privileges
come with some sacrifice, you’ll be able to help him or her take the first
successful step toward adulthood. Use examples from your own life when it seems
appropriate. You have the freedom of your own car, but also the responsibility
of paying for it and keeping it safe. You can stay out as late as you want any
night of the week, but you have the responsibility of showing up to your job
alert and ready to work each day. Give your teenagers as much freedom as they
can handle, and help them to see the responsibility that comes with it.
In the end, remember that having your teenager question authority (within
reason) is actually a good thing. For teenagers, being able to think for
themselves and test their independence is an important part of becoming an
adult. By treating your teenagers with respect and the willingness to listen,
you’ll not only make communicating with them easier, you’ll set an important
example for them to follow when communicating with others.