Don’t be that woman! The man will not respect you and will never, ever fall in love with you. Man or woman, we all want the best deal for ourselves this life has to offer. It’s only with a little discipline that we learn respect.
So, Now What?
Alright, he told you he didn’t want a relationship and you left. Now, you wait. Or, in layman’s terms, get on with your life. Put the word out that you’re back on the market and open to date. Even better if the word can get back to your former flame.
Some people call this playing games.
It is. But there are two alternatives – stay with him and be a doormat, knowing he’s dating half the town or leave him and know that if he really, really likes you, eventually he will come around.
And he will. Let’s just hope he does it in time.
When He Comes to You
If he invested all that time in a great woman, he’s going to miss you as much as you miss him. But sometimes, it takes quite a long time for a man to decide he was wrong. That playing the field wasn’t nearly as satisfying as hanging out with you. It’s at this point where he’ll get back in touch. Unfortunately, this might happen as long as a year after the fact.
A year?! What kind of a man would wait a year?! You’d be surprised. There are a lot of them.
I have a beautiful, smart, sexy friend that every man wants to date. Then, they date her, she falls in love, they pull the three week nonsense, and she has to let them go. Every single one of those men has come back. Unfortunately, she hasn’t really been in love with any of them – she just thought she was. Because by the time they come back, she’s over them.
If you’re over your man by the time he comes back, that answers that question. He was not The One, or even The Two. It shouldn’t matter, though, because you have a full social life. There should plenty of other men who freaked out at three weeks waiting in the wings.