Using your five senses to heighten your sexual pleasure.
Each sensory organ produces a range of sexual desires alone or all together; but we may be overlooking their very essence when being intimate. Don’t misunderstand – they are there, ever present, in our sexual relationship, but we may become so used to them that we forget about the very senses that make us want to be intimate in the first place.
So, the next time your mate and you have an hour or two to spare and are ready and willing to spend it in the bedroom, set the scene for sensory overload by following a few tips:
Sight
Set the stage for intimacy. Layer candles all over the room for a nice glow, use the sheets you love to look at and wear something that says “I’m sexy, and I am waiting for you.” This will put you in the mood for love, and your mate will know that this is an evening all about each other.
Once your mate and you have entered the room, don’t go straight to touching or kissing. Instead, take turns looking at each other. Tell your mate the features you love about him/her – the shade of his/her eyes, the curve of her hipbone, the long graceful neck – fully appreciate the sight set out before you.
Have your mate disrobe garments one by one, pausing after each one comes off. Take in the color of the skin, the curve and shape and the qualities that force your eyes to each place. Imagine what other things you would like to do than just looking.
Once disrobed, take turns surveying each other’s entire body – remember, this isn’t a time to be self-conscious – your mate loves you for you, and appreciates your mind, body and soul. Softly tell him/her what you see, what you love about it, and what you plan on doing to really enjoy him/her. Look at the way your mate’s body joins together – how the hips flow into the thighs and legs, how the arms saunter down from the shoulders, how the neck connects to the curve of the back. This body before you is truly a masterpiece, and this is the time to let them understand that.
Take it another step. Stand in front of a mirror and point out the beautiful qualities that your mate’s body has. Let them see it through your eyes while looking themselves. This not only turns up the excitement, but can help others see the beauty that they possess.