Here is a short list of what you can do to fine-tune your dating style:
Watch for the non-verbal cues
of attraction and approach those people.
Make eye contact with your
date and mirror his or her body language. Mirroring body language gives
the perception of an unspoken connection.
Women: Don't
be afraid to be yourself. If you want to go to 'Bongo Mama's Chitlin
Shack' instead of 'Le Chateau de Filet Mignon,' then say so.
Women:
Remember that men are less responsive to non-verbal cues. Step up your
flirting just a notch if you want to get his attention.
Men: Be sure
to show her that you are listening to her. Mirror some of her non-verbal
cues, and respond to her by asking some questions about what she just said
rather than only responding with information about yourself. For example,
you can respond with "Really? You used to live in Idaho?
What was that like?" instead of "I've never been to Idaho."
Men: Though
eye contact is important, be sure not to stare at her. That deep
trance-like stare can actually be a little scary. Be sure to make
eye-contact during conversation. Before a date actually happens, know that
a long stare might not be roping them in. Make subtle eye-contact at
first, and wait for the conversation kicks it up a notch before really
studying her face.
Try to keep an 'open' body
position. Pay attention to how you are leaning and whether your arms,
hands, legs, or feet are crossed.
Try using body language that
says you are attracted to the other person on purpose. Keep your body
pointed toward the other person, and slightly raise your eyebrows when the
other person speaks to you.