These types of “put me downers” can really wear on the soul. Instead of
seeing the glass half full, they see it half empty with a fly stuck to the rim.
They can be no fun to deal with, but here are a few tips on making your time
with them a little better:
Make a habit of saying at
least one nice thing about everything or everyone you see, hear or think
about when around this person – leading by example can either help them
see their negativity or make them run in the other direction when you are
around.
Think out of the box when
dealing with this person – if you are working on a project together –
whether it be career or community-oriented or just planning a child’s
birthday party – let them slam your ideas, saying “it will never work,”
but show them it will.
Give them a taste of their
own medicine – agree with their negativity and throw your own negativity
spin into the mix – if you see their happiness soar because of your
participation, then you know you may not have room in your life for this
person.
Discuss their negativity with
them – tell them (as nice as possible) how incredibly small-minded and
stagnant that sort of behavior is – then tell them about the positive side
of life – if they get angry or dismiss your feelings, dismiss them for
good.