The duties of best man don’t stop at planning the wildest bachelor party of the century (as much as you may wish they did!). If you’re the “chosen one,” you’re in charge of:
Ensuring that the groom has the marriage license with him.
Getting the money from the groom to privately pay the clergy after the ceremony.
Helping the groom pack for the honeymoon.
Helping the groom get ready for the ceremony.
Overseeing the ring bearer and make sure he knows what to do.
Arranging for the bride’s and groom’s luggage to be loaded and ready to go when they are.
Making sure the honeymoon arrangements are finalized and that the groom has the necessary tickets, passports, etc.
Making sure the groomsmen and ushers are all in their designated places on time.
Checking the men’s boutonnieres (which should be worn stem-down on the left lapel).
Getting to the reception early so you can be there to greet the happy couple.
Giving the first toast at both the rehearsal dinner and the wedding.
Acting as a host at the wedding and reception, making introductions and small talk where necessary.
Dancing at the reception with all the female members of the wedding party – including the bride – and the mothers.
Helping the bride and groom to prepare and depart for their honeymoon.
Returning the groom’s tuxedo.
Signing the marriage certificate.
What to give the attendants?
The people in your wedding party are donating much time and effort to the cause of making your wedding day special, so it’s customary to show your appreciation with a small gift. Normally, the bridesmaids and groomsmen receive identical gifts, and the maid of honor and best man receive something a little different.
Bridesmaids may like jewelry, small music boxes, framed wedding pictures, perfume or scented soap, gift certificates for a facial, manicure, pedicure or massage, or makeup brushes.
Groomsmen could receive leather wallets, cufflinks, money clips, pen and pencil sets, cologne, or gift certificates.
Don’t forget the littlest members of your wedding party: gifts for flower girls and ring bearers can include toys, jewelry, or tickets to the movies, zoo, or local children’s museum.