Only you know that for sure. If you are fighting and as a result, not having sex, yeah, you might need a counselor. But if the two of you are getting along great and feel connected and still do not seem to be sexually active as often, it's probably just stress. Sex is wonderful and I love it, but there are nights I just want to be held and go to sleep. Honestly, if I had sex every night, it wouldn't seem as special to me. It would end up becoming routine. No one wants that. I prefer to have it about 3 times a week. If the number is different, that's okay. Mood and energy levels have everything to do with the frequency. We have children and after kids, we are not as energetic. So we rest a few nights and make up for it with sensational sex another night. I quote Jeff Foxworthy here because this just says it all, "When you have kids and you have the choice between sleep and sex, you take sleep and just hope you have a dream about sex!" Absolutely true. Scheduling a night is a common piece of advice, but I find that even when I've tried that, it's not necessarily the best way. The very night you pick to be romantic could the the most stressful day at work. It should be spontaneous. Sporting events, meetings, interviews, and even meals can be scheduled. Romance is always something that should be on your mind. Choosing a date to be romantic is just not sexy. If you have the energy, great. If not, hold each other before falling asleep. Being in my man's arms is the most wonderful place I can imagine.
Hopefully this clears up some frequently asked questions regarding men and how they feel. We can change how we deal with them if we just use our heads. Men are not the pigs so many people have made them out to be (okay some of them are). Most of them just want to be our companion and to be loved and appreciated just as we do. If you take some time and listen to him, you'll see that he can be so much easier to deal with.