If it sounds too good it probably is. It is typical of people to exaggerate. So perhaps you want to not accept everything that is said at face value. Just be a little cautious. One thing you want to be sure of is the other person married. You would be surprised, for example, of how many married men want the thrill of dating again. So ask a direct question – are you married? Some will admit it. Another cop-out answer is to say, “well we’re separated.” That is a red flag. There are other ways of checking the other person out. Get a business card. If the other person owns a home you can go online to your county assessor’s office and pull up their name to see if they’re for real. Also, keep in mind that dating is still what it used to be – trial and error. No getting around it. So don’t be discouraged if it takes a little time meeting someone right for you. After all, you didn’t buy every car you test drove did you?
When To Have Sex
The answer is probably not on the first date unless, once again, you’re both so horny that you can’t wait and don’t mind if it is a one night stand. It is much better getting to know the other person and become comfortable. It could be a little awkward and you’ll feel especially vulnerable. Again, it probably will have been a long time for both of you so it is OK to admit it. And the first time may not be the best sex you have ever had but it will probably be more comfortable.
Don’t Go Back
Keep those memories in the past. What you experienced as a teenager can’t be repeated. It was another time and place. This is “now.” And try not to compare your new partner to a previous spouse. This is a new chapter in your life so take it as such.