At some point, one of the guys that you thought you were in love with will come back and you’ll find yourself right back where you started – in love. This is very, very good. By now, he’s ready, you’re ready, and the relationship can begin.
Just be certain to lay down the law right away. Before the first kiss, be certain you’re on the same page. Tell him you’re still looking for a relationship. Tell him he hurt your feelings the first time he left and he better not do it again. If there’s any hesitation on his part, cut him loose and tell him never to get in touch with you again.
But if he answers favorably, that he's sorry and he's ready to be with you, you’re both on your way to enjoying the best thing relationships can offer - honest communication, trust, and love.
In Love
Now that you’re with the man you wanted, learn from the past but be in the present. The fear of commitment is a natural thing; if you hang on to that time where you were apart, you could ruin what you have in the present. Forgive that time of confusion and open yourself up to the glorious gift of love.