Within a few minutes of beginning your conversation, you can usually get a feel for what type of person they are and the type of things they like. People tend to gravitate toward others like themselves, so in order to make them feel a connection with you, show them how similar you are. If the person seems to be the outdoorsy type, tell them about your love of hiking or the memorable camping trip you once took. If they mention that they’re an animal lover, talk about your beloved cocker spaniel. Obviously, don’t be fake or make up a story just to sound similar; if you’re not interested in or are unfamiliar with one topic, there’s most likely another one in the conversation that you can identify with.
Use props.
Carry something that could draw attention to you: an outrageous tie or scarf, a t-shirt with your astrological sign or a catchy saying, a bright-yellow rain coat, your dog, an interesting book – anything that someone could potentially start up a conversation about. Similarly, check out other people for props and use those as icebreakers: “Wow, I’ve been thinking about reading that book … is it any good?”
Practice makes perfect.
Flirting with someone doesn’t necessarily mean you want to jump in the sack with them. It’s a great mood and ego-booster for everyone. Guys, tell the seventy-year-old grocery store cashier that she has beautiful eyes; ladies, flash your most bewitching smile – and throw in a wink – at the next doorman or valet guy you see. Be charming and lighthearted. It can make someone’s day, and it’s great practice for when you’re in a real flirting situation. Besides, you never know who could be watching you – your friendly demeanor could be attracting a cute bystander!
You don’t have to be a raving beauty or a super stud in order to be a successful flirt. Remember, flirting is mostly attitude. If you’re positive, self-confident, and enthusiastic, you’ll be a people-magnet in no time!