Asperger’s children tend to limit themselves and those around them to rigidly structured routines. They want things done in a certain way and often, though not always, pick certain foods that they like to eat and insist on one of them at every meal time. As they mature, these routines change and the child is more likely to listen to reason.
Because of their inflexibility children with Asperger’s often limit their own creativity and imagination. The same things are done in the same way every time. They often memorize details and have a great rote memory, but learn without understanding. Asperger’s children need everything to be explained simply and in great detail. For instance, instead of telling the Asperger’s child to set the table, you need to be much more specific. Tell him to put knives, forks, spoons, plates, cups and glasses on the table. This allows him to know exactly what is expected of him.
Never assume that an Asperger’s child understands instructions just because he can repeat them back to you. Be certain to follow through and ascertain that the child knows exactly what you want him to do. This makes it much easier for all involved and keeps the child’s frustration and anxiety to a minimum.