Adding insult to injury is the fact that your sex drive and your partner’s may be totally out of sync during the last few months, and you may stubbornly believe – even if he says otherwise – that it’s because he isn’t attracted to you. I drove my husband crazy with my assertions that if I didn’t find myself attractive, then I just knew he couldn’t possibly. He swore up and down that his reasons had nothing to do with the way I looked, and that it was just the fact that the baby was right there between us during our most intimate act. I should have believed him, but instead, I let my low self-esteem tell me he had to be lying, and I felt horrible about it. The moral of the story: if your guy isn’t as interested as he used to be, ask him why, and then take what he says at face value. Most likely he really is telling you the truth – guys have some freaky fears about sex with pregnant women. If he isn’t, if he really and truly deep down doesn’t find you attractive any more, at least he knows to bluff about it. If that’s the case, you wouldn’t really want to hear the cold, hard truth anyway, would you?
When your sexy strut turns into a wobbling waddle, and your body looks more like Jell-O than J-Lo, it’s natural for your self-esteem to take a nosedive. But don’t despair – this feeling won’t last forever. While you’re pregnant, it’s up to you to make the most of it. Revel in the fact that your body is in the amazing process of doing the ultimate task: creating life. Embrace your feminine form and each new curve, and cherish the feeling little life growing inside, because before you know it you’ll be holding your baby and wondering where the time went.