If your child is being bullies, give him the following tips to help him cope safely with the situation:
Don’t fight back or become physically involved with the bully. Hold your temper. Becoming angry of violent will only make the situation worse.
Explain to your child that bullies enjoy controlling their emotions and that if they react in a negative way, the bully feels very powerful. It is better to ignore taunts and threats. The bully will tire of getting no reaction and eventually chose another victim.
Tell you child that if he gets into a physical confrontation with a bully that he may be putting himself in danger or serious physical injury. Advise him to keep his distance and hang out with others so he will be safe. He should tell an adult about each incident in order for it to be addressed and the situation corrected.
Explain to your child that the best thing for him to do is walk away from the bully. It’s also acceptable for him to make eye contact with the bully and tell him to stop. Bullies thrive on negative responses to their actions. When your child ignores him, he will not feel powerful.
Tell your child to use humor when someone bullies him or to give the bully a compliment. Something like, “Your backpack is really cool,” will send the bully for a loop and leave him standing with his mouth open. However, be certain that your child understands that he shouldn’t make fun of the bully or laugh at him. This will worsen the situation.
Your child must know to tell his teacher, the principal or another adult in authority when he is being bullied so it can be dealt with swiftly and efficiently before the situation escalates.
Talk with your child about the bullying incidents. Talking is a good way to address your child’s feelings into the open and quiet his fears and frustration.
Ask your child to use the buddy system in order to keep himself safe. Ask the child to join social organizations and to broaden his friendships. Being in a group and interacting with peers will help him build his self esteem.