If you have specific religious or cultural beliefs that have to do with the birthing process, be sure to explain these to the doula. Is she willing to accommodate them? Most doulas go out of their way to honor both religious and cultural beliefs. If your doula feels that she is unable to oblige you, it might be best to continue the search for the perfect doula for you, the baby and your partner.
Your Partner’s Role
Be sure to discuss your partner’s role with the doula. Is he going to be present to help with breathing techniques and to give emotional support, or does he wish to take an active part in the delivery? Who is going to cut the umbilical cord? Does your partner wish to hold the baby immediately after birth, or does he want to guide it out of the birth canal? Be sure your doula is willing to meet with you and your partner to discuss the role he wishes to play in the birth.
Be sure that the doula you chose is willing to support your partner as well as yourself. At times men don’t understand the instinctive behaviors of women during labor and delivery. He may become upset or overly concerned at behavior which is perfectly normal. Is your doula willing to reassure him and at the same time be able to assist you with labor pain and give you the much needed attention that you deserve?
Some fathers are very eager and excited to assist with labor and delivery. Others are somewhat leery. Be certain that you, your partner and your doula are fully aware of the role your partner wishes to play in the birthing process.
The Choice is Yours
The choice of which doula you will hire to care for you and your baby during the birthing process is yours to make. You and your partner should feel safe, secure and comfortable with your choice and the services the doula will provide. With your doula and your partner in attendance to give you much needed love, support and care during labor and delivery, you will have a positive and beautiful birthing experience.