Speaking of freshness, it’s not just for the contents of your refrigerator. Happy couples know that it’s crucial to keep things fresh in the bedroom, too. When you’ve been with the same person for month after month, year after year, it’s hard (uh, no pun intended) not to fall into a routine. But spicing up your sex life is relatively easy; all it takes is a willingness to experiment and a little bit of dedication.
Scheduling intimacy may sound equal to hopping on the fast track to Boringville, but it can actually be quite the contrary. In order for a relationship to thrive, a couple must make time for sexual closeness. We often allow life to get in the way, and sex becomes a low priority on the list – something we may or may not get done later, after we worry about this and take care of that. In order to avoid this scenario, pencil in an hour or so with your honey a couple of times a week. Lie in bed together naked and touching, and just talk candidly about your day. It doesn’t have to lead to sex, but nine times out of ten it does.
The element of surprise can also help to keep your between-the-sheets action innovative. You know your partner better than anyone, so don’t do anything that would cause feelings of discomfort (physical or otherwise) – but bringing home a new toy, adult video, or a piece of racy lingerie once in a while can work wonders. You don’t have to feel like a pervert slinking into an adult novelty store (although there are lots of non-perverts that visit them, thank you very much); there are many online sites that will ship your order discreetly in an unmarked package.