Not all bullying is caused by problems with the family unit. However, if your child is a bully, it’s time to take a long, hard look at the personal interaction that your child sees at home. Does a sibling tease him unmercifully? Is he called names and teased by you, your spouse or a sibling? What seems like innocent fun may be hurting your child by you and the rest of the family modeling bullying behaviors.
Teasing, whether in earnest or in fun can damage your child’s self esteem and make him emotionally insecure. Your child may blame siblings or peers for his shortcomings. He must be made aware that he, and he alone, is responsible for his actions.
Always focus on your child’s behavior, never on his person. For instance if he neglects a chore say, “I counted on your to do that. I’m extremely disappointed because you forgot.” Never say, “You are lazy. You can’t do anything right, can you?” Always criticize the behavior, not the child.
A child’s home should be a safe haven where he feels safe and secure and gets love, support and respect. He should never be made to feel uncomfortable, unloved, unwanted or be harshly criticized.
Encourage Your Child
Create a positive home atmosphere for your child to grow in and use these tips to help him stop bullying:
Teach your child to treat all people with respect, kindness and dignity.
Set limits for your child and consistently maintain them.
Reward appropriate behavior and punish that which is unacceptable.
Talk to your child’s educators for advice on how to help your child change his behavior.
Set realistic goals and see that your child reaches them. If he slips, reassure him and tell him you love him and encourage him to continue trying to change.